Have you ever hurt having to watch your kids learn the hard way? I experienced that yesterday! I knew one day it would be here, but how would I react? How would I respond?
On Wednesday evenings I pick the kids up from school at 5:30 PM. Victoria has piano lessons on Wednesdays after school so it works out that they stay for after school care, and then I get them when I get off of work. Normally when I get there they both come running up to me all excited and tell me about their day! It is probably the one thing that I look forward to everyday...hearing about something new they learned. Well, it was not that way yesterday at ALL! When I got to the school I saw Victoria sitting at THE table. And when I say THE table I mean the table where the time outs happen. At first I didn't get it...not my Victoria, she must be sick. Then I saw one of the Teachers Aids walking up to talk to me. I quietly listened as she explained what Victoria had done wrong and why she was sitting at THE table. :) Well...lately Victoria has been doing things AFTER she has been told either not to do them or to wait for assistance. She makes the wrong choice and does it anyway. CHOICE! Key word here. We continuously talk and teach her about choices and consequences.
Yesterday she had a choice to make. She made the wrong one and then received a time out for it. As I knelt down next to her yesterday I remember telling myself not to cry. My heart broke for her as she sat there. I had to remain strong...for her sake and mine. I asked her why she had made the wrong choices. She didn't have an answer for me...she just looked up at me with her big blue eyes and started to cry. Oh my word. That hurt! I hurt for her because she was hurting but this is one time that I couldn't make it better. She had to hurt to learn about making the right choice.
As mommies most times we can fix the hurt with a kiss, hug or band aid...but as our little ones grow up we learn that we can't always make it better. It is then that our children have to learn the hard way. WOW!! I was challenged this past Sunday at church by our pastor to pray for our children. I have always prayed for them but I have started praying for them in a different way....they are growing up and making their own choices so I have to pray for them to make right choices.
I remember this quote from my HIGH POINT days...
"We have choices, choices have consequences, make the right choice" I know that is not word for word but I have always remembered that....and am now applying it to my children.
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I think that's how God feels when he wants us to make the right choice. I think his heart is broken just like yours was when we make the wrong one.
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